Abusive Relationships Research Paper

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Chapter 6 IN CONTROL OF YOUR RELATIONSHIPS “All your strength is in your union, All your danger is in discord.” —Longfellow, Hiawatha While the title of this chapter is “In Control of Your Relationships,” what I am really trying to get you to understand is how to be in control of yourself in relationships. Later in the chapter, when we discuss abusive relationships, you will understand why that is so important. The fact is that you can ONLY be in control of yourself in a relationship. Attempting to control anyone else in the relationship, flat-out, just will not work. It can lead toward the probability of developing an abusive relationship. In all of these different relationships that we will discuss in Chapter 7, your …show more content…

Why they want to have a bad relationship with you, I do not know, but they seem to want to. Category 3—Bread and Butter relationships Category 3 relationships are people who are nice, friendly, pleasant people, but either do not have the time or will not make the time to have a relationship with you. These are the majority of most people’s relationships. Almost all of the relationships in our lives are with people who are nice and friendly, who when they see us, love us, but who will not make the energy or time to maintain the relationship with us. These are our “Bread and Butter” relationships. Category 4—Golden relationships Category 4 relationships are our “Golden” relationships. These are people who have both the time and energy to invest in a relationship, and they are nice, pleasant and friendly people as well. Most of us have very few relationships that fall in that category, in any aspect of our life. “Purification consists of getting rid of the toxins in your life: toxic emotions, toxic thoughts, toxic …show more content…

Eliminate the Category 2 relationships from your life. Anyone who wants to have a bad (abusive) relationship with you should be eliminated. All of the Category 1 and 2 people are energy drains for you. They take energy from you—sort of like a form of vampirism—particularly the Category 2 people. The Category 1 people are really not too much of a problem because they do not have the time anyway. But the Category 2 people are almost like vampires. They take your energy. You want to eliminate relationships with the Category 2 people completely. 3 . Increase the number of Category 4 relationships in your life. 4 . Convert as many of the Category 3 relationships into Category 4 “Golden” relationships as you can. Category 4 relationships give you energy. They help you get stronger. They are supportive, loving people. As a result you gain positive energy from

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