Family Influences
The style of parenting a child receives while growing up is very important when it comes to adulthood. Some children are taught by their parents on what to do and what mindsets to have in life, whereas some children use their parents' wrongdoings as an example on what not to do as an adult. “Nobody’s Son,” by Luis Alberto Urrea, shows the effect of bad parenting on a child throughout adulthood. “My Ecumental Father” by Jose Antonio Burciaga and "Mother Tongue” by Amy Tan, both show the effect that good parenting has on children. “The Wedding” by Firoozeh Dumas, shows both sides of the argument. One's upbringing and the way that they were parented throughout their childhood always has an effect on their adulthood, either positive
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His father was Mexican and his mother was American. However, his mother never accepted his Mexican identity, saying, “I'm so sick of your God-damned Mexican bullshit!” (5). Urrea was never in touch with his Mexican side of the family either, because his Father was absent for most of his life. This led him to not feel accepted by either side of his family, therefore the name of the story, “Nobody’s Son”. In the text it states, “But mostly, I got to thinking, they must have been scared of me. I was one of them, but I was also one of them” (7). In this quote the author is saying how he thought that his Mexican side of the family was scared of him. Even though he was one of “them”, he was also an American, which many of them were scared of, or did not get along with. There is a clear racial divide created in this family, where Urrea doesn't feel accepted on either side of his family. However, even though he had these troubles in his childhood, he ended up well off into his adulthood, eventually becoming a professor at Harvard. He used his parents wrongdoings as examples of what not to do and eventually became successful. This story shows how the influence of a parent, no matter how flawed or complex, can shape a child's identity and help to shape the adult they will
He could not handle being both cultures. “Choosing to speak the language of the dominant, choosing racelessness, bears a price, however. And that price is alienation-the loss of fictive kind-manship without being fully adopted by the white community.” (Villanueva) Rodriguez not only lost connection to his culture but his family as well. He was so committed in being the outstanding student he stepped away from his family.
Parents have a large impact on their children's lives, and depending on what type of parent they are, the child will act differently in the
How a person is raised will impact how they act, whether positive or negative. Take Mayella Ewell in To Kill a Mockingbird she was raised by her father who was abusive and liked to drink. Due to her father’s habits, she has to raise her siblings, so she did not get to experience school and many other things. She went to school until about 3rd grade so she does not have a very good education because she could barely write her name and could not talk very literate. Family is an important part of life, by helping us improve our personality and shapes our lives.
Likely, one's upbringing and the way they were raised plays a major determining factor on how they will turn out as an individual. Hurt, by Alden Nowlan is a short story in which the protagonist, Stevie, tells his friend Skip on multiple occasions that when he is older, nothing will hurt him. Initially, a person's upbringing can change their morals as, Stevie grows up with nobody to care for him, yet he still turns out as a compassionate individual. However, although Stevie is on the more mature side for children his age, his child like mindset remains visible in some of the choices he makes. Consequently, Stevie depicts on various occasions that he is mature enough to take care of himself and others, as he has adapted to it via his multiple
The memoir my group and I chose to read was called Nobody’s Son by: Luis Alberto Urrea. He was born in 1955 in Tijuana, Mexico, where most of this book takes place. Urrea is a very well educated man who enjoys art and through interviews I have watched, you can tell he has a very smooth way to speaking and communicating. His father was Mexican and he had an American mother.
Did you know that the people around you can have a major impact on how successful you could be in the future? The nonfiction book The Other Wes Moore by Wes Moore demonstrates nature vs. Nurture and how it can affect individuals' lives. Nurture is the way you are raised, your relationships, early experiences, the cultures around you, and how it plays a role in the outcome of your future. Throughout the story Wes Moore the author highlights different stories and experiences from his childhood and another man also by the name Wes Moore who grew up completely separate from the author but had a lot of similarities in their experiences during adolescence. The author Wes Moore’s family had a large influence on him and nurture played a big role in
He does not acknowledge the importance of his family until his son betrayed by his father’s absence from his birthday party, wishes his father cannot lie again. It becomes a struggle in the man’s job, and in his daily life, but he eventually learns his lesson and the family is restored. The
Human relationships are imperfect. Family members look out for one another and are expected to have each other's back. William Faulkner, an author, who experienced hardships with his family, wrote a story about a family who also went through troubles because of an abusive and destructive father, Abner Snopes. The protagonist, Colonel Sartoris Snopes, son of Abner Snopes, struggles with obeying his father because he knows that his actions were wrong.
Each one has learned many lessons from their courses in life which established their personal morality. In particular, the author, Wes Moore, was driven by positive outcomes from his negative conditions resulting from him a successful person in his adulthood. As a result, the inspiring story of the author, Wes Moore, could be described in three themes: Peer, Parent, and Family Support; Loss and Redemption; and Decision Making.
Bucholtz and Hall provide the contextual framework for this in the following passage: “Such speakers negotiate their identities with their peers by using language to variously play off dichotomies of …language (Spanish-speaking versus English-speaking), and immigrant generation (English dominant second generation versus Spanish-dominant first generation). Distinction…may …produce differentiation along multiple axes simultaneously” (Rodriguez, 1982, 385). In practice, the application of this tactic can result in the speakers of a specific language casting out members of their community who no longer appear to embrace their culture. Such is the case for Rodriguez, who is rebuked within the Mexican American community for losing his ability to speak Spanish. The rejection he experiences repeatedly occurs throughout the text, such as when a woman working in a Mexican grocery shop refers to him as “Pocho,” which means “‘colorless’ or ‘bland’”
Many individuals say that a person is a product of its surroundings. And for two young men from Baltimore, this could not be any more accurate. In “The Other Wes Moore” by Wes Moore, the author talks about two young boys who shared the same name and the contributions they did in their lives that made them turn out the way they are. Both Wes’ grew up in similar environment with tough childhood and without the presence of a father. Where one becomes very successful and a Rhodes Scholar, and the other is heavily involved in the drug game and receives a life sentence in prison for serving a part in a murder of a former police officer.
Throughout history we have seen how parents can dramatically influence the behavior of their children. We know that good teachings were around all the way to 69 BC when Cleopatra had her four sons. Even now authors are still trying to put messages about wise parenting. While reading To Kill a Mockingbird with its inspirational themes, I noticed how parents during this time period had a big impact on the decisions of their children. Throughout the novel of To Kill a Mockingbird examples of good and bad parenting are shown.
We live in a complex, unpredictable world, filled with an array of family styles and personalities. Whether or not we recognize it, the family in which one is raised or currently resides plays a pivotal role in their development and opportunities. While we should not blame our circumstance on where we came from, it is crucial that we understand how our childhood influences why we are the way we are. One phenomenon that affects several families, particularly ones with low-income, is parentification. Parentification, also known as the role-reversal of a parent and a child, is not inherently harmful for a child, but it is important to look at the situation objectively and consider the risk-factors.
The children learned basic norms and values from the parents. The parents supply the economic needs for the child such as foods and education (ResviseSociology, 2014). In a family, different person performs different role and function such as a mother should take care of her child. The important is the child can feel the love and support from their parents (Gordon, 1997). Family dysfunction may appear in broken families, violent families and divorced families, etc.
Becoming a parent is a task that cannot be taken lightly. It is a task filled with frustration, responsibilities and dedication, but is also filled with joy and satisfaction. From children learning how to behave to them going out with friends, rules, standards and expectations are set mostly by their parents. Parents make most of their children’s decision in the first couple of years from behalf from what they eat for breakfast from setting their curfew as they get older. As children began grow, they began to make their own choices and learn to deal with the consequence of their mistakes.