How Does the Generational Cycle of Abuse Affect the New Generation?
The book I have chosen as the focus of my yearly project is “It Starts with Us” by Colleen Hoover. This book presents the theme of abuse from the perspectives of both the abuser and the abused. I chose this book because before reading this book, I was not aware of the significant detrimental effects of abuse, but in the end, I realized it and it has affected me deeply. This book especially demonstrates the cycle of generational abuse and the difficulty in breaking it. The generational cycle of abuse is a destructive pattern perpetuated throughout several generations until someone decides to break this vicious cycle. This essay seeks to address the disadvantages that could be
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First of all, growing up in an abusive house might cause various mental health problems which may affect the rest of one’s life. For instance, anxiety, depression, anger and trust issues, low self-esteem, and lack of self-love. In the book, Lily -the main character- grows up in an abusive house. She witnesses a lot of verbal and physical fights, and unfortunately, sometimes she is the one who harmed. One’s most important years to gain a personality are the first seven years of their life. This viewpoint is corroborated by many mental health experts, who state that ‘In those first seven years, in particular, our brains are being programmed just like a computer – but sometimes it all gets wired up in the wrong way with devastating consequences.” (Centres for Health & Healing) If one spends these significant years in an abusive house, their personility will affected in a destrucitve way. At the start of one’s life, one will be under the influence of their parents in developing their inner beliefs about themselves. (Centres for Health & Healing) If one experienced a significant amount of humiliation and saw anger for every small thing they did, from breaking the glass to forgetting the lights on, …show more content…
For example, a person who is not satisfied with their life might look into escape from their poor circumstance. In the beginning with the purpose for only relaxed and not think their family might turn into an addiction in their old ages. In the book, Lily throws herself from home to not see her dad and her mom and she uses ciggarettes and alcohol to stop thinking and relax herself. In the following pages, when Lily becomes an adult she drinks every day at least one bottle of alcohol. In Maté’s view “All addictions are attempts to escape the deep pain of the hurt child, attempts temporarily soothing but ultimately futile.” (Bassil) He adds “Nobody’s saying that every traumatized person becomes addicted. I’m saying that every addicted person was traumatized.” Moreover, usage of substance especially if it turnes to addiction inevitably affected one’s health and social life. Usage of substance might have excessive amount of detrimental effects on users. Some of them are high blood pressure, cancer, heart disease, stroke, liver disease, and digestive problems. Even having the one of these diseas might affects rest of one’s life. They need to use exorbitant amount of money for their healing, medicines and see a disproportionate number of treatment. Most probaby, they will not have this amount of money, even they have the healing is a hard and
Relationships with parents and spouses can influence the type of person one might grow up to become, for better and sometimes worse. As a child, one can't always achieve independence and escape from an authoritative household, but can later alter their lifestyle and learn from it. Abuse is the impetus for wanting to escape, yet some people choose not to out of fear and traumatic
When abuse is generational, how does one stop the cycle? In the novel by Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us. Lily and Ryle are faced with challenges within their relationship that they never thought they would have to face. Although the love that Lily and Ryle have for each other is extremely strong, the thoughts of the abuse her mother faced from her father as a kid resurfaces to her mind as she has to make the choice of staying with the man she loves or leaving the abuse in the past for good. Growing up in an abusive household can really take a toll on someone.
Be that as it may, these influences also have a negative impact on his life and even facilitate his addictions unintentionally. Some of his experiences with others can create and impose expectations on
The main character in the book Lily Owens, proves to be a very strong individual facing many different obstacles within her 14 years of life with her abusive father, her mother's death and growing up around
It is the tragic truth that many children have to face abuse while growing up, this influences the kind of person they become. Kerry Kletter’s novel, The First Time She Drowned, displays several forms of abuse a child may experience, many of which prove to have lasting effects on the characters. Through research, it is proven how abuse can affect a child's development. Whether the abuse is physical, verbal or sexual it changes a person, impacting their life. Abuse creates trauma for a person making their lives harder and changing the way they view the world.
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For many people growing up in an abusive lifestyle they are more than likely to carry on the “tradition” of abusing. “ "Thief! I did not raise you a thief, but you are one when I was your age, I was away from home, working. You only steal from me." "I didn't" He hit me hard in the face, and I stumbled back onto my bed.
This emotional complexity is a testament to the impact of childhood trauma on adult
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The Outside Circle demonstrates how intergenerational trauma molds and determines life decisions. Thesis: This essay looks at how intergenerational trauma affects people and
This points out the need for educators to not only understand the history of the intergenerational trauma and the effects it has on the students
The short documentary “Child of Rage” presents an example of how experiencing abuse as a child can shape the child later in life and how some children can recover. The intrafamilial abuse that Beth experienced as a one year old affected her behavior later in her childhood when she was adopted. Beth was also able to recover from some of the effects of the child abuse she experienced once she was separated from her adoptive family and taken to a special home. Beth experienced intrafamilial abuse at the hands of her biological father after her mother passed away when she was one.
Abuse is another thing that has been linked, to problems in a child 's development. The earlier abuse and neglect occur in a child 's life the more severe the impact. Furthermore, the stage of development, while the abuse occurs will influence the type and severity of the consequences. Additionally, the more chronic and long lasting the abuse and neglect, the more harmful it is. When the abuse and neglect are caused, by parents or another significant figure a child, becomes confused because their supposed source of safety is the source of their harm.(Frederico 343).
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